Reflection – Do You Mean What You Say?

Sometimes guys have a lot of problems communicating exactly what they want. I mean, haven't you ever found yourself in a position where you want to tell a girl that you like her... but you just can't find the words? Instead, you might mention great things about her.. how her hair smells nice or how she's so witty.

All these compliments serve to gently hint that you're interested without actually saying it.

So let's compare what giving compliments does instead of flat out saying: "I like you".

Compliments

When you give compliments, you are actually raising someone else's value. It means you are impressed with that aspect of them because you rarely encounter it. Usually what happens is that you are lowering your value relative to hers, and therefore reducing your chances creating attraction towards you.

Stating your interest

If you can be bold and state your interest directly, you'll usually appear as confident enough to put it "all out there". When hanging out with a girl, you can easily say: "Hey, you're cute, I like you" which gives her no choice to acknowledge that you're interested. At this point, unless she flat out says "no" or reacts negatively, it's on! Usually girls will be too shy to respond to that and they'll usually ignore it... if this is the case, then just keep on going.

Although I advocate teasing, flirting and playing the game of love, I strongly believe that being straightforward, genuine and direct is a great way to be successful with women. Don't be scared of liking women, it's natural and women will respect you for showing it.

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Tough Question: How Difficult Is It To Get A Date?

Depending on which side of the spectrum you are, getting a date can either be very difficult or very easy. It seems that some people naturally attract all kinds of attention while others have to struggle in order to go out with someone.

Why is that?

Well, usually the people that have their hands full with dates are the ones that have a good balance between a busy life and a good social life. you can't have too much of either one.

If you're always out, then it's likely you don't have much going on in your life and your success will fall short when people realize this.

If you're too caught up with work, studying and neglect socializing... then how on earth are you ever going to meet anyone?! Busy people are usually quite interesting because they have a lot to talk about.

As with anything in life... balance is the key!